july + august + september
Tuesday, September 28, 2021
It's been over a year since I last sat down to recap my life in monthly chapters. The truth is life is so damn good these days that I've rarely been capturing it at all - I'm just floating, blissful, absorbing as much of it as I can. Being as present as I can. It's been a fuckin delight, tbh.
But I'd still like to share something, at least. I do wish I'd taken more photos this summer, especially whilst in Brighton, but I was so present in the experience that I didn't want to waste a second. It's not a bad problem to have, really.
I started the summer with receiving my first dose of the Covid-19 vaccine, and then proceeded to catch corona from a colleague several days later. Wouldn't recommend Covid on the whole, lads. Not a pleasant experience. S looked after me beautifully, though, and my mama-in-law dropped me round some peonies.
After the dreaded Cove and our period of isolation, S and I took a trip down to Brighton (after many lateral flow tests on both of our parts.) We visited Brighton with some friends last Summer but I didn't love it on the whole. This time around I fell in love, hard and fast, and had the best holiday of my life. Everything lined up for us perfectly - the weather, our Airbnb host allowing us to spend another night, our train getting cancelled at 2am the day of and us rebooking so we could stay longer... and then we realised S's favourite artist was doing a show at the Concorde 2 and there were tickets avaliable for the Wednesday night...
But I'm getting ahead of myself.
We spent our days wandering the Laines, dipping in and out of independent pubs and cafes and shops, and our evenings reading in our Airbnb. I went in the sea for the first time in my adult life and I adored it. The weather was warm, the sky a wide stretch of clear blue. Bliss.
At one point Bimini Bon Boulash walked past me and I genuinely had a meltdown. My body and mind could not comprehend what was happening. I was utterly star struck.
I can't pinpoint a single part of the trip that was my favourite but I can list several: watching a shrimp swim past us in the ocean, purchasing my first ever vinyl record (Rumours by Fleetwood Mac if ur interested), demolishing a scoop of chocolate + hazelnut gelato from Boho Gelato, hearing S sing his heart out at the Frank Turner gig (he was phenomenal btw, as were Pet Needs who supported him), connecting with Jess Guise over a song about her brother, the fuckin divine strawberry + banana smoothie from Coffeetzar that was so good I bought one every morning on our way into town, playing multiple rounds of Dobble with S whilst sipping a cloudy lemonade, the vegan shortbread from Infinity Foods. I genuinely could go on and on and on forever.
If you're planning a trip to Brighton I recommend checking out the following:
• William the Fourth, an excellent pub that's a mix between classic pub decor and modern touches ie moons and fake ivy handing above the bar.
• Coffeetzar for fresh smoothies and the chorizo + brie foccacia.
• England at Home for cute indie decor pieces.
• Resident, the number one place to shop for vinyl in Brighton.
• The Vurger Co for deliciously filthy vegan burgers and sides. I went for the 'crispy chicken' burger with a side of 50/50 fries.
• Infinity Foods for freshly baked vegan treats and snacks. I tried the shortbread and it was divine.
• Boho Gelato for the best vegan gelato in town.
• Purezza for delicious and well priced vegan pizzas and sides. I had the margarita with added crispy potatoes and S went for the Friarielli with a side of dough balls and GOD it was good.
Once back home I came down with a severe case of the post-holiday blues as I tried to navigate life back in Bristol. I felt incredibly connected to myself and my wants/needs whilst in Brighton and I found it hard to connect those things to my life at home. I realised a lot of the things that were important to me, especially regarding climate change + environmentalism, as well as the general little details of life, and spent a lot of time trying to figure out how to tie those things into my 'real' life whilst mourning the trip itself. It was a hard few weeks, but at least I have this delicious lunch to show for it:
Garlic ciabatta, sweet potato fries in a polenta crumb, a mini tin of beans and some Asda mature (vegan) cheddar to top it off. Christ alive.
The end of July also kicked off the start of Drag Show Season as S and I went to see the United Kingdolls at the 02 Academy and weeks later my mama and I saw Crystal Methyd at The Fleece. I fucking love drag.
I was struck with a sudden spark of inspiration in the middle of August and decided to arrange my books by colour - a very ~out there~ idea for me. I'd always organised my books by genre but my bookcase was looking a little sad and uninspiring so I mixed shit UP and now I'm suddenly reminded of all the books I own that I'd forgotten about.
Towards the very end of August S and I went on a day date into town to see the giant moon hanging from the ceiling of the Bristol Cathedral. We also crossed the river and visited the M Shed so we could see the Colston exhibition. I was incredibly pleased to see it was heavily focused on the timeline of his life (and slavery) alongside information and footage of the BLM protests. I had no idea of his history and it was unsettling to see it all in print but that's what we need! We need information like this to be featured and I thoroughly support any cause that brings down people in power who exploit those around them. And in case anyone here needs reminding: Black lives matter.
August slipped away into September faster than I could wrap my head around and my PTSD reared its ugly head bang on time. Autumn has been a severely triggering time for me for the past 4-5 years but this year my life is so wildly different that I'm trying my best to embrace the season and leave old memories behind.
We did enjoy some last snatches of sun before the rain came to chase it away. My early morning walk to work one Sunday was blessed by these pretty lattices of cloud.
Finally (I'll share my London snaps in another post) I was introduced to the most intriguing thing: chocolate sourdough. What a concept! It's vegan and delicious when toasted and slathered with vegan butter, fyi.
And that, in a nutshell, was my summer 2021. What a strange and eventful few months, my friends. I always feel like I've done nothing of note until I sit down to write and suddenly an hour has gone by and I still have things to say. I hope your summer was a blissful one, despite any bumps along the road. Here's to a restful + festive autumn. x
Currently playing: nothing but the sound of my keyboard tapping and the rain pouring outside the window.
adding magic to my everyday
Monday, May 24, 2021
Change it!!!
I almost shook him in frustration (but I didn't. I am restrained and dignified.)
I've been thinking a lot about active decision-making recently. I've been just coasting for a while, very passive in terms of my day-to-day life. I've haven't been unhappy but I haven't been particularly in love with life either. I realised I hadn't done anything new or interesting in a while. The same way my brother has subconsciously accepted his bedroom the way it is, I'd accepted my monotone lifestyle. And in the same way I told my brother he'd be able to transform his bedroom with £50 (mattress topper, new duvet, perhaps painting the wall behind his bed), I challenged myself to add some more sparkle to my everyday.
I started in the smallest and most logical ways: I watched a season of Drag Race I hadn't already seen 18 times. (Season 5 for those curious.) I spent 90p on a summery shower gel because pineapple always makes me think of the sun. I created a new Sims 4 save and set myself a 'highest potential' challenge. I refreshed my skincare collection with bits I already had. S and I made a pact to take more photos together. I began looking for pottery and pole dancing classes.
Once I started it began to snowball, effortless.
I added 100+ songs to a playlist for us to listen to throughout the day instead of existing in silence. I created a rotation of snacks and meals for our shopping lists because we've fallen into habitual eating and we wanna snap out. S hasn't been sleeping well so we've created a routine of reading chapters of Game of Thrones aloud to one another each night before bed. I finally allowed myself to buy Cosy Grove and I've spent an hour each day tending to my poor ghosty bears and it's genuinely so lovely??? I rejoined Bee's wonderful Patreon community after a few months away in a bid to restoke my passions (and support a wonderful creative) and felt the fires of creativity begin to stir inside of me.
These changes have taken place over the last few weeks or so and I'm already basking in the benefits. I feel reinvigorated, refreshed. Content. Such small things make a huge difference. Now I just need to learn to implement them regularly instead of allowing myself to stagnate ~
One thing at a time, though, eh?
5 mini book reviews
Monday, March 8, 2021
Announcement: I got a Kindle for my birthday and it's the best thing ever.
99p books? A dozen of them stored on my little device that I can stash into my bag and carry with me everywhere? That I can pull out whilst I'm at work and accidentally read sex scenes in the staff room? I'm in. (This last one is a true story - I sent photos of it to my friends working so I didn't have to burn alone.)
Am I thrilled that it's connected to Amazon? Of course not. But I am going to do my best to balance my ebooks with purchases from independent book sellers, charity shops (eventually) and book swaps. My Kindle is helping me read more than I have in years. It's so accessible, especially for those of us on a tight budget. I'd been reading books on the Kindle app on my phone for weeks until I finally decided to commit my birthday money to one, so definitely take advantage of that if you're in the same boat! Allow me to report on a handful of the books I've read recently.
The Wrath and the Dawn by Renee Ahdieh
This book had been on my peripheral vision for several years before I picked it up but I always remembered the premise - anything dramatic and drastic and a little bit dark always stirs my wicked soul and The Wrath and the Dawn did not disappoint. A Khaliph who marries women and then hangs them the following morning? A bride clever enough to weave stories to stay alive night after night? Hello. I'm in. It wasn't as dark as I wanted it to be (it softened once the romance started) but Shahzrad was such a bad bitch. I loved her. She was the highlight of the novel for me and was the only reason I dragged myself through the disappointing sequel. 4/5 stars.
The Viscount Who Loved Me by Julia Quinn
Turns out I'm a slut for silly little regency romances. The smuttiness of them all just emphasises that. The Viscount Who Loved Me is the second novel in the Bridgerton series and it was a huge step up from book one. Our main characters were fiesty and sexy and complex. Fears, both logical and illogical, were explored in a way that felt real both in their own right and within the romance and I loved that layer to the plot. Julia Quinn adds some truly questionable instances to these stories, though, and there's a scene in particular that made Anthony seem like a predatory prick. I hate the way men act in these regencies sometimes, but I suppose it makes it authentic to the era. Could still do without tho! 4/5 stars.
An Ember in the Ashes by Sabaa Tahir
I truly had to drag myself through the first half of this book. There was a lot of torture experienced by one of the main characters and it was hard to read because within her narrative she was so weak minded. She suffered and I felt it and I didn't like it. She irritated the fuck out of me at points, too, and I really disliked reading her chapters. Despite that, I did quite like the book on the whole and it was written incredibly well. It's a little outside of my tastes these days, though, and were I still in my dystopian Hunger Games phase I would have eaten this up. 3.5/stars.
The Duchess Deal by Tessa Dare
Regency romances are truly the easiest books to read in all the land - The Duchess Deal being one of the easiest yet. It was silly and romantic and sexy and exactly what I needed. I love that there's always such coldness and arrogance within the men of these novels but what they all really want is a woman to dominate them. It never fails to thrill me. Emma is probably my favourite regency heroine to date and I loved the inclusion of her weird and eccentric friends. All the yesses to this one. 4.5/5 stars.
Daisy Jones & The Six by Taylor Jenkins Reid
Have you ever read a book that unexpectedly comes for your heart and soul and demolishes you so thoroughly that you just sit and stare for a while after finishing? This is the second book by Taylor Jenkins Reid that has made me feel this way (the first being The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo.) Does the woman write anything but masterpieces? Daisy Jones & The Six is comprised of interviews giving the full story on the beginning, middle and drastic end of one of the biggest imaginary bands from the 1970s. It's full of drugs, sex and rock n roll but also vulnerability, addiction, trust and heartbreak. I inhaled it. I read it through the night into the small hours until S pried my Kindle from my weary hands and I finished it the second I opened my eyes the following morning. 5/5 stars all. day. long.
I'm currently 9 books deep into my reading challenge for the year which means I'm almost halfway to my goal already! Yaaaaas. However I've kinda reached the stage where I've read everything good I own soooo... I guess that means I need to buy more books. What a colossal shame. Can you recommend anything for me?
{ Currently playing ; Like That by Doja Cat }
in bloom
Wednesday, March 3, 2021
On February 1st 2021, S and I moved into a place of our own and my life began again. My home life has always had such a significant impact on my mental health and I almost felt like I couldn't leave. I imagine many survivors of domestic abuse can relate. You feel guilty for those you're leaving behind, you feel it's your duty to protect, to sell yourself, body and soul, to take the brunt of it. The way you've always been told you deserve to. But it turns out: you can leave, and it will feel like you've taken a deep breath after holding it for the past twelve years of your life. You will eventually grow used to the peace and quiet of it all. I'm not hugely familiar with the feeling of being in the right place for yourself and your soul and your life but I'm indulging it. I'm thriving within it. Basking in the sunlight of it.
I've been expanding rapidly since we moved in and I'm uncovering so much about myself. My tastes and interests and imagination are being revved up and I'm rolling through them all faster than I can keep up with. I'm reading and cooking and looking after my skin. I buy candles for my coffee table and Argan oil masks for my hair. My routines are still being established, but I'm indulging myself like never before. I have never loved myself more than I do right now. I have never cared and tended to myself the way I am right now.
The sun is shining and Spring is coming and the petals on my branches are beginning to bloom. I am beginning to bloom. And I love it.
{ Currently playing ; So Good by Dove Cameron }
snapshots of home
Thursday, February 18, 2021
At what point in the moving in timeline do you finally live free from cardboard boxes? Asking very much for myself who, at three weeks in, is still surrounded by the little bastards. Empty ones, half-full ones, ones still crammed with stuff I have no idea what to do with. Our local recycling centre is probably sick of seeing our masked-up faces, arms laden with folded cardboard. Who knew we had so much stuff?
A thing I keep reminding myself of, when I'm full of frustration and exhaustion, is how lucky I am to own so many beautiful things. How lucky am I to have a bookcase soon-to-be stuffed with interesting and sentimental reads? How lucky am I to have so many intricate and exquisite pieces of glassware to wash and put away? Gratitude over everything, always. It certainly does the trick when I'm in the kind of head space that cannot see beyond the sea of stuff surrounding me.
Despite the amount of stuff we haven't sorted, we have sorted quite a lot, actually. I'm writing this from the comfort of my own desk, music playing through the Alexa, sunlight streaming through the curtained window. We've got the king-size duvet set up after two weeks of fighting over the double and Sam finally has a bedside table. So allow me to give you the briefest tour of what we have sorted so far...
The first thing we did when we found out our move date was upgrade to a double bed. I'd only had a small double at home which was perfectly fine for my short ass but when your man is 6ft7 you need to accommodate him (I guess). We scoured Facebook Marketplace for weeks until we found this metal Ikea bed for £25. Firstly: hello, what a BARGAIN. Secondly: she pretty! It wasn't the style of bed we were looking for but it's sturdy and pretty enough for now.
My bedside table setup remains unchanged but still fabulous.
At the foot of the bed we set up my bookcase because there's nothing more comforting to me than being surrounded by books. She's adorned with Pokemon plushies and crystals because duh but I also have my Alexa set up here as it diffuses the sound really well. Sam's acoustic guitar is tucked down next to it and I finallyyyy put up my Sighh Mountra! I'm still a little uncertain on the layout but it's good enough for now.
My desk setup is also completely unchanged, although I re-arranged the position of my paintings. Rather than finding it intimidating or egotistical to display my own work, I find it oddly comforting. I work with a lot of the same colours and styles so they're all quite cohesive in a way. Eventually we're going to put some prints up on the walls but I'm going to keep my desk space for my own pieces. It's inspiring! Love your own work! Champion your imperfect brush strokes! Cherish the mistakes! Art liberation front 2021.
Navy cushion: B&M. Pink fluffy cushion: Tesco. Grey fleece throw: Wilko. Pink blanket: Primark.
We were blessed as Sam's parents were getting rid of their huge grey sofa around the time we viewed the flat and our move date coincided with the date their new sofa was arriving. So thus we have a lovely grey fabric sofa with a chaise! It's delightfully comfortable and big enough that we can both snuggle together without fighting for space. I want more pops of colour in the living room, as opposed to the scandi-boho scheme in the bedroom, so we're going with whites and greys with hints of navy, pink and mustard yellow. I've found some incredible art prints online which tie in with the colour scheme so they'll hopefully be going up soon!
Despite all of the tears and exhaustion and complaining, I am so truly grateful to be living with my love. Waking up to him every morning makes it all worth it.
I'm sure I'll share more as we progress, but that's all for now gang. Also: Happy 2021!
[Currently playing: Shut Up by Ariana Grande.]


















































